Sunday, May 06, 2007

New life

We held a small party for the tiny addition to out tribe recently, the son coming to us seven months ago. Why celebrate that he is seven months, you may ask? I say and we say why not?

He isn’t my biological son, but born by my sister across the table. I have previously written about how we see things concerning children and family in our Circle. Feel free to read it.

We are many around the table. The ruckus of the last few months has actually increased our number, and that pleases me, pleases me greatly. We celebrate and are enjoying ourselves, and the new life in our midst is filling us with joy and fire.

No one knows who his biological father is and no one cares, because all the males around the table are his father, just like all the females are his mothers. It is possible, possible to live a different life. There are countless examples of that. Societies like ours exist all over the world, societies where people live in a world of living dead. We are laughing heartily where we sit, where we toast and eat and sing and dance, and the tombstones surrounding us are fading in our hearts.


  1. thats a wonderful way to be, children aren't born to be our possessions, they are their own little persons, it shouldn't matter who's they are, we all need to share in care for them. Truly I feel disheartedened by the lack of support and caring that 'our' children recieve from others, (though not to discount some lovely people who are involved in their care) I love the idea of being part of a community of people that share these caring roles, though when I have made effort to reach out to my 'sisters' and find this, it often has been rejected or unreciprocated . Nuclear family life is not so much chosen but forced through little alternatives in many peoples lives. Thanks for sharing this special time, Makes me hopeful for the future.

  2. Reading what I wrote again now sounds too critical, in the way that it sounds as if I am blaming others instead of taking direction to change things for myself. Mostly the problem is that we live in a box within our community, and this is what I must challenge within my own life, continue the journey towards a living, diverse community.

  3. I don't think you were being too critical at all, Jo. It's true that each and every one of us has a responsibility to help create independent communities, but it's harder than it should be because of those among us clinging to the oppressive society they supposedly left behind.